You’re not alone at the top. I’m right here with you, boo.
I Make the Rules is my Substack for ambitious women running businesses and teams who want to scale, lead, and live on their terms.
Equal parts practical, strategic, vulnerable, and irreverent, I write about leadership, money, boundaries, decision-making, scaling, and giving a middle finger to what the world has always told us we should do.
The wisdom and treasure I drop comes from 20+ years building and leading companies, both as a C-level executive and through my coaching and consulting work with my badass clients.
Twice a month, I share the same kind of direct guidance and honest conversations my clients get in our work together. The stuff that helps women stop second-guessing themselves, make bolder decisions, and build success that actually feels good once they get there.
If you’re driven, a little rebellious, and hungry for more freedom, clarity, and ownership over your life and leadership, welcome! You’re in the right place.
Having Hard Conversations Is Worth It, Every Time
Hard conversations are uncomfortable. Avoiding them is usually worse.
In this post, I dig into why so many women struggle to say the thing that needs to be said, especially in leadership, business, and relationships. Because while we’re busy trying to “keep the peace,” we’re often sacrificing our own energy and sanity. Cute! Except absolutely not.
Clear communication builds stronger businesses, healthier relationships, better leadership, and a whole lot more peace. If there’s a conversation you’ve been putting off, this one will give you the loving kick in the pants you need.
Mediocre Mabel Doesn’t Deserve a Seat on Your Bus
The right strategy won’t save you if the wrong people are executing it.
In this post, I write about one of the hardest parts of leadership: realizing someone on your team is no longer the right fit and finally doing something about it.
I break down the real cost of keeping misaligned or mediocre people around, and share a practical tool for evaluating team fit with more clarity and less emotional spaghetti.
If you’ve been carrying around frustration, second-guessing, or a nagging gut feeling about someone on your team… this one’s for you!
Make Better Decisions by Knowing WTF You Stand For
Being the woman in charge means making hundreds of decisions on a weekly, and sometimes daily, basis. It’s a lot. And it can be fucking exhausting.
In this post, I write about the power of defining your core values and using them as a filter for decision-making in business and life. Because when you’re clear on what matters most to you, it becomes much easier to prioritize your time, energy, opportunities, and goals with confidence.
I also share how understanding opportunity cost and staying grounded in your values can reduce decision fatigue and help you lead with more clarity, intention, and peace.
Walking Away is Hard, Scary, and a Skill Worth Building
Walking away sounds simple until you’re the one who has to do it.
In this post, I write about the weirdly powerful act of letting go. Because sometimes the thing that once fueled you starts draining you, and your gut knows it before your brain is ready to admit it.
Walking away can feel scary, selfish, or like failure. But staying too long has a cost, too. When you finally release what no longer deserves your time, energy, and attention, you make space for relief, peace, and the things that actually do.
If there’s something in your life you know you’re done with, this one is your loving nudge to listen to yourself.
